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Anonymous asked: Princess Elodie, your Majesty, why do you think the Doctor doesn't respect Martha? I rather thought he just didn't feel the same romantic interest.
As you have addressed me correctly, I shall address your question fully.
Truth be told, we worded the original post very poorly. After discussing it with a friend, we ended up posting a better, more accurate description. That was not, however, the one that caught fire and went around Tumblr.
But as you are so kind and humble, we will attempt a master finale on the topic.
The Doctor treated her with respect a lot of the time, in our opinion. But he treated her a great deal of disservices several times. It’s made rather clear in the beginning (even stated) that Martha was, initially, a rebound; an object to help him get over Rose, rather than her own person. Though he does enjoy and respect a lot of her a great deal (and speaks highly of her in the books), this was an unfair basis for their friendship.
Additionally, his failure to understand how much this hurts her is, in our opinion, due to his seeing through her and not seeing her fully. Laying in bed with her, describing how “Rose would solve this”, entirely unaware of how he was indirectly calling Martha insufficient, speaks to his lack of empathy towards his new companion. (In a later episode, we even see that she’s internalized this perceived Inadequacy.)
As well, it’s true that the Doctor didn’t love Martha back, which was very difficult for her. And while she herself explains that her codependency towards him was in large part due to her inability to get over him, examples such as above didn’t help.
- He would glorify Rose as a superior companion in her presence.
- He blatantly used her as a means to his personal end (closure over Rose).
- He is oblivious to the many signs that this is hurting and corroding her. Whether it’s because he’s “typical out-of-touch Doctor” or just doesn’t care is certainly up for debate Whatever the root, however, the branches still bore toxic fruit.
We think a lot of the discussion here is the difference between “Treated with respect” and “Respected”. He treated her with respect. He had a lot of respect for a lot of her. But he also left her to pay the bill and tip for his own emotional baggage, which isn’t a decent thing to do.
This was the idea that we were trying to convey, despite our previously pure wordage, for which we apologize.
As well, do not think that we are vilifying The Doctor as a bad character. In fact, their entire relationship is part of why we love the Davies era of Doctor Who. It displays complicated characters who hurt and heal one another and behave in believably flawed ways.
Rather, this is discussed because it is important to fully understand in what ways Martha was being hurt by the Doctor in order to fully appreciate how wonderful she is and the power behind her decision to leave. She does not simply leave because The Doctor “doesn’t love her back”. She leaves because she has identified a toxic and unhealthy relationship. She sees the Doctor’s self-involvement, ego, and inability to move past Rose. She sees her own feelings of inadequacy and unhealthy desire for his approval/affection.
Note that her departure doesn’t come after a Rose related story or even a story about the Doctor’s emotional state (in relation to her). She leaves after she herself saves the world. It is her awakening and her realization of how incredible she is. That’s what she tells the Doctor: “I’m Good.”. Juxtapose this with the “I’m Sorry" in 42 (sorry to link it twice). Martha’s story is about self-worth and self-respect. The Doctor’s disservices to her absolutely need to be framed as more than "not returning her affections" if we are to fully absorb the message here.
Thank you for your question and for your time. We truly hope you enjoyed this and, by all means, feel free to voice any disagreement you have. We quite enjoy the topic of Martha Jones!
This is the best. I can’t even think about my own life in these terms.
THE PRODIGAL SD HAS RETURNED
Only I can set my brain free from all this bullshit. So fly away brain, we don’t give a fuuuuuuuuuuuu